Sometimes, we think we're undeserving of someone's love. For one reason or another, we imagine a person is out of our league, and we mentally create a gap between ourselves and that person. But we may meet someone we never thought we'd have a chance with, which becomes a match made in heaven. It happens.
In an online discussion, many such couples freely discuss how they met their current or former partners. Here are some reasons individuals thought they were unworthy of love but discovered differently.
1. I'm Too Fat
"You can never know until you try" should be the watchword of anyone looking to get into a relationship. Self-rejection is already a problem because someone else may love you just as you are, and you'd never know. A user on the platform said her husband thought she was out of his league because he was overweight. "Jokes on him," she said. "He's the funniest, smartest, cutest, most incredible man I've ever met, and after 27 years, I still wonder how I got so lucky." If they had never given themselves a chance to love each other, this magic would have never happened.
2. I'm A Hot Mess
Another member said she had zero idea what her partner saw in her. She was going through a divorce with no money, no job, only a handful of friends, and she lived with her dad. But he saw her in the worst state of life she had ever been and had only positive things to say about her. His kind words and support propelled her forward, and she honestly wasn't sure she'd have survived had she never met him. This user found light in a dark place, and it made her glow once again.
3. I'm An Ugly Duckling
We can't define for others what they should love or desire about us, as another user's experience confirms. He said he was clueless about what his partner saw in him. He was a bit of an ugly duckling back in high school when they met, yet she developed feelings for him despite his looks. If he'd guess, he'd say it was perhaps their banter together as part of a close circle of friends, but he wouldn't be able to replicate it if he tried.
4. I Didn't Think I Was Good Enough
One user advised people just to be themselves. According to them, love comes from experiences where you are yourself. Be honest and upfront with who you are, and it will not only benefit you at the moment but also in the long term.
5. No One Was Interested In My Hobbies
A commenter said he could cook, and she loved to eat. He said being confident in something you're good at helps a lot. For him, it was food, and he found someone who loved food almost as much as he did. So they were perfect for each other. Finding that common ground made all the difference for him.
6. I Distrusted People
This commenter rated himself 7/10 and his partner 10/10. He said she had too much trauma in her past because of men who hurt her, so she didn't hang out with any man, much less trust him. He worked with her on a few projects, respected her intellect and personality, and saw beyond her beauty. These things eventually won her heart, and she made the move to be with him.
7. I Had No Confidence
One guy said he was super shy and sort of antisocial. He was also slightly awkward around women, but he got his partner because his friends always hyped him up whenever a woman was around. Whenever they did this, he became confident because the woman would want to know him more. Through the help of his friends, he was able to gain the confidence to approach his partner.
8. I Was Too Old Fashioned
To one user, connecting with her partner meant using pen and paper. She said, "I never realized that just corresponding with someone in an old-fashioned way using a pen and legible handwriting can bring such happiness and closeness." This is proof that love can develop in ways beyond what we think is "traditional" or in vogue.
9. I'm Not A 10
A lady said she batted way out of her league to land her husband. She said he works out, is classically handsome, and is a gentleman. They probably fell for each other, according to her, because they both had a lot in common and shared a weird sense of humor.
10. I Was Scared Of Social Media
A netizen talked about how her love story was inspired by a Facebook post. She wasn't keen on accepting people from Facebook or even becoming close to them, but when she liked a picture of Indian Cricketer Shikhar Dhawan posted by a guy, he saw the like and sent her a request. She left him hanging for days until a mutual friend begged her to accept him. She did so despite feeling reluctant, and that was one of the best decisions she ever made. They're in a relationship now, and they often laugh over the fact that Shikhar Dhawan united them.
11. Leary Of Relationships With Fellow Workers
Even on an engineering job in an aerospace company, love found a way. It can break boundaries and find people anywhere. This couple was given the enormous, difficult task of installing all the hydraulics on a particular aircraft. She was assigned to the right side while he was assigned to the left side, and they worked together for ten hours every day. Little by little, they became friends, and love blossomed. They're still together and happy as can be.