Many women choose to stay single because of their ideas about dating and relationships. They get into a relationship and realize it's nothing like they thought it would be. Women in an online forum were asked to share what they hated about being in a relationship. Here are ten big issues.
1. Relationships Are Hard
One woman thought relationships were "hard." Nope, ma'am. No one is born inherently toxic, difficult, or evil; it's the same with relationships. They become what you make of them.
There are many keys to making a relationship work — discover them and build your relationship on a good foundation. However, this is not to say there may not be hard times; relationships have bad days, too. But you get the point, don't you?
2. You Have To Compromise and Sacrifice
Or so one woman thought. Yes, relationships sometimes require much more compromise and sacrifice than we are willing to allow. However, one should never forget that, as with all things, there should be a balance.
Never shy away from speaking up when you feel something isn't working for you. It reduces the tendency for resentment and unhappiness to build up and creates a healthy relationship where both partners feel safe to express themselves.
3. It's All About The Sex
No, it's not all about sex. But be honest about why you've been saying this to yourself. Maybe you just aren't as interested in sex as your partner is. Your sincere answer makes all the difference.
4. "Butterflies" Are Warning Instincts
Believe it or not, butterflies, which some have endlessly glamorized, are seen by others as warning instincts kicking into place. One woman says she thought the butterflies she got from certain dudes were her "Warning alarm and not intense attraction."
Who could have thought butterflies in your belly could mean anything other than you are hopelessly, helplessly in love with the person who makes them flutter? Seriously, ladies. Watch some Disney.
5. Love Is All You Need
Hate to bust your bubbles, but I speak from experience when I say that there are days in your relationship when love would not be enough, contrary to what most women think. After the relationship's honeymoon phase, you realize it takes more than love to keep the relationship going. There are days when mutual understanding, compromise, forgiveness, and even space need to take up the mantle.
6. Being In Love Means Wanting To Be Around Them 24/7
On the contrary, not wanting to be around them 24/7 means you are not in love with them. Many women are still misguided by this notion, and isn't it a shocking reality? So many people enjoy their personal space and have to compromise in their relationships. Still, sometimes their primal instincts and need for solitude kick in.
Social media and mainstream media have done a number on us, haven't they? Especially by convincing people one sign that you're in love means you always crave your partner around you. There's nothing wrong with wanting some space sometimes.
7. "Forever" Is a Requirement
Some women agree they thought "forever" was a requirement" for relationships. So, they stay away from potential partners that they don't see "forever" with. Unfortunately — and fortunately — people change. It means you may see forever in a person, and they change to become someone very different, and the reverse can also be the case. So, stop looking for "forever" and start listening to your heart.
8. The Need to Reignite The Spark Once It Dies
Giving up is never an option — unless when it is. No one wants to give up and say goodbye to a relationship that has brought them so many happy, good times, especially when they are sure the relationship is only going through a phase it would recover from if they put in enough effort. Sadly, it is not always true.
Sometimes, we must accept when things end and open a new chapter. You do not always have to "reignite the spark." One woman reports being happy after she rid herself of this misconception.
9. Getting Stuck With The Chores
Some women believe that their partner's inability or ability to do household chores reflects how they were raised. We agree. A loving relationship requires partners to share in the cooking and cleaning chores.
10. You Will Not Get Tired Of Your Partner
More often than you're willing to admit, you will. You will wish your partner could shut up, leave you alone, stop a particular habit, or stop breathing your air. Allow yourself to go through the emotions with total honesty and never be afraid to ask for space when you feel it is necessary; it will help you love and appreciate them better.
11. You Can't Just Walk Away
When you decide you have had enough, it may be too late to just leave. Once married, there are a whole other set of emotions and obligations to deal with. Sometimes staying is the easiest thing to do but not best for you.
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